Author: nataliebotero

There is a misnomer that a Sensitive hears over and over. She’s moody, unstable, brilliant but bipolar. Empathically gifted, a misunderstood smoldering mystic, an unskilled empathy moreover. A Sensitive first learns that to care you must carry. However a healer, she needs to give it up to God, her love, and turn it over. When she gets older, she wonders why she Is tired. Drained from her parents, the pain of her friends and the trap she is in gets lonely.

You see, she is born with a gift. A chemical imbalance. She can see spirits as a child, talks to Angels all her life. Though frightened at first, she is tough to the last and a Sensitive woman all her life. From early on, she loves her father, may be abandoned and toughened by having to be a mother. The patterns of family, carried through generations, she is born to heal in all of us, called to feeling like the alien. For a sensitive grows early into an adult, smart, mature, old soul but born as a child, she Is burdened but patient because she can see her parents. What she needs is her mother, the back bone of her father, support for her emotions, she suffers often sadly in silence.

Thrust into a romantic figure piece, she is puzzled by why people don’t stay open in heart, why they say one thing of promise but fail to finish what they start. The story in her wild confusion with wild pain at her side, tells herself a story of unrequited love and for reasons, she’s abandoned and would do best to hide. for what she has inside goes inward even more. Nevertheless, she cannot hold back the love on her chest, she expresses, even pursues the love object. Picky in choice, artistic originals best, rebellion her choice, she needs the eccentric types to experiment. For she is creative, outlandish players vicariously bring her best out. What she must do when she’s the hype, once her body and sensitive features sprout, is to watch out for the charlatans–those doomed archetypes.

Ok, so she stops write here, for that charlatan from the past she feels so foolish to have called dear. The past pops up, like his hand of control, painful victim she now holds. As a psychic, she could only become clear to learn from the negatives of life. The dark situations overtook her life. Far away from being her father’s sunshine. Mother was overwhelmed, her baby to face in herself, would, who knows, cause her to implode once again. Unprotected, sheltered, experiencing a death, survival instinct became her true wealth. Having known human nature from having loved others so well, escape from imprisonment, from the inculcating what went against her love, God, brain washed in brain damage, the spiritual rape of a Sensitive she handled. The letting go of the lost soul who demanded. The spiritual Sensitive was finally raped, so God released her common sense. She emancipated herself from the lost one who man handled.

Falling in love is about the vulnerability in the strong attraction we experience for the person we fall in love with. It’s story is written from the basis of how we may really feel the most afraid of a love relationship working out, then losing it. It is a description of the compassion in-Love-we-fall that we realize for that true person. It may land on feet as a description of True Love. A celebratory overwhelm in the music is the quality we try to capture in the embrace.

We thought romance had a therapeutic quality to it as a gift providing to the world; spiritually it is an offer to the healing of cultural wounds we have to process personally, moving through the experience of the unrequited story of our love lives. And so we are no longer, transformed by finding the Love of your Life.

The transfiguration of passion is described in the music of romance itself, in the language of its rich sound, that we try to match to the feeling the word evokes. The joy, the fear, the risk to fall into it, as when we fell before, and then the courage to believe in it again.

The courage in making this love a lasting chance is the achievement. Just like commitment is as a journey. Writing the words of my own love life story was actually a painful process, an active process, to even come to accept being loved, again or against my defense.

The safety in love we crave may already be there, as mutuality between two people is the surprise we celebrate in each new beginning of a good feeling relationship. The music of romantic gesture sings that positive ecstasy. The intimate sharing in the physical can be a tryst conveying spirituality in the beauty and sadness of living with a love throughout the beginning of a relationship to the final end of death.

The challenge and suspension of attraction is there to push us through the inherent barriers put up by our past because of the importance of expressing the love. As we’ve heard before, “A love unexpressed is like a symphony in the desert.”

In the love song montage of our lives, the message is we savor the discovery of the quality of what the One is, and the total adoration of the essence of that person.

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AFFIRMATIONS IN EMPATHY

“The guidance will come guaranteed, every morning and every day. I have an unlimited storehouse of ides to survive.”

“By letting go of hard feelings, I am cutting dependencies from people’s influences that don’t affirm me anymore.”
“How I perceive Divine Guidance is through using the imagination.”

“Make the job description your own. People in the workforce have tough limited circumstances. Employers who can recognize each employee’s strength and utilize and acknowledge them can by placing them in the right capacities.”

“We want to be known.”

“Connection happens in the recognition of who we are and the simultaneous recognition of the other.”

“We are shifting the mindset and learning the secrets of the Universe in the new ideas of this age.”

“The inner workings of prejudice. There is a payoff to judging others, a way to define ourselves as individuals by the contrast. There is a reason for judging, and we all judge.
Love is the most powerful force in the Universe.”

“What is the process like of developing a strong ego, finding a Self, taking your power back and the purpose of anger?”

“There exists an outlet for all of us to express our truth, heal our hurts, and work with our thoughts to know what we think. In us is a safe place for expression so we can hear our own selves, enlightening ourselves to how much we already know. Do not feel embarrassed by learning new things. To become who you are by expressing yourself in a non-judgmental space, we can teach each other to hold space for each other.”

“The best thing about a person, I think, is their willingness to learn and how open their mind is.”

“My outer life reflects my inner peacefulness. I am healthy enough to solve my own problems and have enough challenges to keep me alive! I’ve got my motivation back! I don’t need to struggle but I have to go through the struggle to find my freedom.”

“How do we explain terms like Love and Oneness? What can we hold onto that explains our Oneness to each other? How about knowing that we all have Universal Human Feelings and Basic Needs. Everyone on the planet does. And everything we do is an attempt to meet a need. Because we all want to be happy and not to suffer. Every one of us does not want to suffer.”

“Our three main Spiritual Needs are for Wholeness, Self-Acceptance and Connection.
How do you really Love a Human Being? Through three things: Acknowledgment, Attention and Affection.”

“What are our different ideas about God from our different cultural standpoints?
We are here to experience diversity and develop ourselves through the contrast and to create unity.”

“Every human being has an energy field and imprints in their energy field that can be felt. We draw experiences to ourselves from the imprints that are bound by the thoughts we think. The root of those thoughts are in what we think about ourselves.”

“Deconstruct those externals that have become internally ingrained abuse. Every person on the planet is here to heal some sort of self-abuse.
Your freedom is in knowing yourself. This is waking up!”

                                                        Fables: Honoring our Feelings after A Breakup

After a tough breakup, anxiety and doubt may creep up. The worst is when we doubt our feelings and ourselves, fundamentally, and even to the core. To save ourselves from this acute mental suffering, we must first acknowledge that losing love is one of the most painful experiences you can go through in life. Both women and men go through their own particular healing process. Distortions in memory, blame, guilt, shame and projection can keep us in the relationship long after it is gone. Fables are our stories, feeling is what helps to honor ourselves, and can transform us for the reconciliation to finally happen for ourselves.

Feelings you may agree with after a Breakup:

Doubt

Homeless hearted

Sad

Foolish

Loss

Lost

Relieved

Raw

Extra sensitive

Futility

Grief

Mourning

Celebration

Anger

Fear of love

Jealousy

Doomed to repeat

Alone forever

Devastated

Confused

Unrequited

Abandonment

Guilty

Proud

Incomplete

Resolved

Resolute

Survivor

Free

Freedom

Unresolved

Unresponsiveness

Torn

Need your voice back

To be heard

Insomnia

Longing

Falling in love again quickly

Questioning

Resentment

Complaints

Righteous

Relaxing

The world puts a lot of emphasis on self and body-image. While there is a practical womanly and masculine wisdom in this, it does not need to be overly emphasized. Making an intention to attract others who love us for our depth and inner beauty is a healthy motivation, otherwise, our concern for self-image is a strategy to attract what we already possess inside and can be missing the point. We want to be seen as attractive until they see us for our depth when looks are no longer important. Be cautious, give it a little time, discern, and get to know someone on the soul level. Love requires time, patience, having a positive outlook, and knowing it’s worth it not to rush it.

An example of applying a strategy instead of creating true connection is selling ourselves by trying to impress someone with our idealized image of ourselves, instead of expressing our honest feelings. But we are selling ourselves short. We may cut off our vulnerabilities, which makes us the most lovable, to impress others with our knowledge, our looks, or our judgments and evaluations, which are conditional forms of love. These are strategies to protect ourselves from getting hurt, blocking us from the love we most want.

There is another way to approach life and love—through connection, ultimately what all humans want and most need. Ask yourself, do I want to judge (or be judged), or do I want to connect?

There is a way we go about fulfilling our needs—Strategies and Options or Going Towards Connection. Most of us are constantly in strategy mode. We are driven by our unconscious motivations. Our closest relations, especially our love objects, can sense that in us, or are consumed in their own strategizing, passing us by like two ships in the night. The motivation to connect rather than to strategize meeting our needs is met in the present, where the true gift is found.

Instead of “doing” and strategizing, let’s focus on Being. Being takes place in self-nurturing, first. Being in a state of knowing, knowing our inherent worth, inner beauty, attractiveness. From this place we are discerning what’s right for us, our thoughts are being adjusted to align with our higher good, shifting us for the better, making friends in a fun way, continually taking care of ourselves, and magnetically attracting from our center, instead of pushing against the stream. Being is like flowing and enjoying the natural unfolding process of developing a real relationship based on real love. Desperation, self-doubt, and fear of hurt melt away as we enjoy the flow and process and have fun. Love is fun.

Rejecting someone before they reject you is a defense against hurt, a form of self-preservation, and a way of sabotaging ourselves. We reject to protect and then we project. We end up hiding away and having conversations with our mothers and our fathers alone. That occurs when Love is perceived with the mind, and there is the stuck-ness because love is not rational or logical. Love perceived with the heart is always safe, and even if it does hurt, it is still love in that it is a spacious opening to healing what hurts.

In healing a relationship, it takes a lot of discipline to not speak and let the other person come to their own realizations. When speaking to someone we are close to, we can sometimes be misunderstood. Talking about the elephant in the room between us can make us retreat from each other internally, and we may hear them through the lens of rejection, or translate it to mean that my partner does not feel that I am good enough. All disagreements are created by the fear of losing each other. Most of us have had times when we’ve felt truly alone, and we cope with loneliness by retreating into ourselves because that is how we have learned to cope with not being loved the way we’ve needed to be. We numb ourselves from receiving love and don’t trust it. It feels like it is not safe, not deserved, will entail control and manipulation, or will eventually go away one day. Children of divorce go through this trauma in their intimate relationships especially.

We all truly want understanding, to be conscious, so we may create connection instead of judgment and alienation. Understanding brings peace. If we approach relationships with the idea to have fun and grow and learn how to be in relationship, we will remain open, and the willingness the two will have to love will remain intact, bonding you into a greater and greater level of engagement.