You…

Who has…

 

Beautiful eyes that have beauty actually in them,

You’re a physical actor that “jumps to,” saves the day, solves the problems….with bravery and courage 😉

An unafraid persona, and yet I love the fact that you are a whole other person than your roles.

You have this thing that is so fascinating with your different accents. It’s like they are all yours. Where are you from again?

I receive so much pleasure from even the thought of you. The first day I meet you, the look in your eyes, hugging and holding each other, so much laughter.

You are funny, cool, playful, you “get it,” and you’re on the level. Getting along with you and making you laugh is the burst of pleasure I get with you. I obsessively think of things we can do together, (but you have to get well first. Drink your juice!)

I love the fact that you need, and you open up to me. I would love to take care of you…please.

Sweetness, kindness, softness, open-hearted. Who doesn’t want a man like that?

You would be like my boy, and a lover. Comfortable, like a friend.

You are vulnerable too. I am concerned that you are overwhelmed. I feel so much compassion, honey. Everything will be OK.

I get fitful, restless, hopeful and desperate when I think of your beautiful masculine body and its strength, its warmth…the way we could make love.

I wonder what you think of yourself. I care about this. Wish I was there to hear all about it.

I admire you, your talent, intelligence, strength, the delivery of your words.

I love your curved mouth…bad breath too

 

WHAT!!????

SAY IT!

Kiss me now!!!!!

Or you don’t get it

Uhhh…. I guess youll have to wait too.. pffft!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

In fluctuation, during psychological healing

To recognize internalizing

Less internalization leads to…

Not knowing the effect on others

The dual process

Hypervigilance, unwinding, taking the time

Sacrifice, spiritual issues, valuing

Pulling the proceedings off

Without dissolution

From high conflict

 

The ability to solve problems is an enormous boon to one’ self esteem

By their advice

Cultural conditioning

When you are in control of the climate

An actual place

The dual process strategy

When the all too common reaction is to leave

Upset about your reactions, the feel of a demand

Travel to a healthier place, then, and unpack

Regard for life

 

People with war experiences

My best friend is consistency

Best friends are consistent, aren’t they?

I’m passionately “reacted” to you

Compassion passion

The light inside and then the ego all around it

The gift in a toxic relationship experience is the reveal of what you’re capable of; before you disdain it, learn how it affects your reaction impulse and vow to love yourself enough to end it.

I know there is more I have to learn, soon. There is always more ground to cover.

Whether it is in a book or lived experience

It i enormously valuable to have experience

 

Paying attention to emotional charge

To the level of insight a person has

From comparing and contrasting

It’ okay to obsess about new information

To absorb the meaning of feedback

Indulging in the creative process, gratitude for your life choices

Disappointments can ground us, necessarily so

Disappointments can slow us down to mature, asking do you need to develop patience, and what for? To develop the richness, and balance the giving and receiving. From a self focus to an other focus.

 

Health aligns me with who I am

Discomfort means there is something deeper

Escapism and needing the energy

Sacrificed connection for addiction

Healing spaces are places to connect to people on a deeper level

Reaching a plateau in meditation may be helped by doing service for others, as a meditation in a new form. It is from meditation that you can come to serve.

 

Always the connection between the physiological and the psychological

You can feel the truth of a person for you in your body

I used to freeze up, now I celebrate strengths

Triggered because it was a power struggle

The feeling that there is no escape

Symptoms of heaviness, empathic symptoms and smoke signals, empathic responses

 

Cultural suffering, fragility

We care, but we’re overwhelmed

Emotional fluency

Deprogramming the divisiveness, no progress

Unless there is acceptance of other people, but not unacceptable behavior, that’s the difference.

We have daily transference with people,

We are trying to change.

 

People are at different thresholds, be cognizant of that,

Low committed periods of doubt

Learning to interpret into words sensory feelings, I’d call that intel

What has actually unfolded is so different

Glean and develop, hold back and absorb

A very delicate dance

We bury our aliveness.

 

I often feel I can name the feeling very well, but have not the wisdom.

As well as “universal needs” are universal feelings, but that are not all felt the same.

Yes, your anger was blocking your understanding that others around you were going through pain also. Not entirely but not untrue, sounds lacking in compassion—-your anger outbursts/reactivity was a process in empathy, which you broke through and found new energy, you got unstuck by not stuffing it but by letting it have its day, by God. I have a lot more than just energy now, too.

 

 

 

                                   –upon reading phrases from Tom Robbins!

 

 It’s a sun a-setting matter now,

In this side of utopia for the few.

Hearts melded into the heat,

Arms bare, let her body roll down,

While the neighbors make note of compromise.

 

The South is good enough

Of dirt and drug

Of beauty

Of spilt knees in the mud, down here

Never taking care of me instead of us.

 

We are all here serving the nasty fellow

The cast to our skins changing back

The torn sights you may see

Will slow the heartbeat

And let her body stand down.

Watch God,

I don’t need you often

Just to watch over my healing

Every night and day..

 

March to your own drummer

They’ll get to Africa at home.

I’m God’s prayer so I won’t leave my own.

Let me then stand united

On my agreement.

To what? To heal the planet

So that you may see it.

 

Out of this country, out of the mind

Walked into rhythm

Walking in His way around,

Like all the time, like all the time

 

The Sun burns through lightning

Like skin is only enlightening

 

I struggle to Tennessee,

Cerebrally, cerebrally

God do you watch in me your Plan?

Exodus

Still a white old crazy man?

 

“My blood is still thirsty”

 

Arrestingly, arrestingly

That day in your Mercy,

Controlling me, controlling me

 

There once was a person

A human being, a human being

From Tennessee

Keeping that to yourself

Oh Lord Have Mercy!

It’s on the shelf

Anxiety, anxiety

 

Dark skins have curses.

 

What a valuable planet

Helping me, helping me

I have a love for this planet

Originally, originally

Lord there’s a lot who are thirsty

Believe in me, believe in me

Prayers that I answer

I’ll oversee, I’ll oversee

 

You have to see how you sit and write

You have my mouth falling every day and night.

What will I do today or tomorrow?

I’ll either sit or fight.

 

Cerebral phantasm

My poetry, my poetry

 

Since then you are Holy

 

Lord how do you feel alright?

Cuz I want my freedoms.

Do you really think you hold a concept of Me?

For only me, for only me?

 

See the child in Christopher

He had not accomplished, held no family

He had forced me to promise.

Not right for me

Not right for me

I wanted my freedom

See the child in Christopher so obviously.

He never let you rest your little head on Me.

 

Lord, the influence of their desires

Influenced me, influenced me

Just like you told your people in exodus,

In exodus

To go be free.

 

And there’s no one competing

 

I really want my space from them, you see oh Lord

Integrity, integrity

They don’t even make me really safe, you see, Lord

Those accusations were so cruel and fake.

Uneasily, uneasily

Lord dear thank you it will not repeat.

That it’ll never happen to either you or me.

 

Nothing to worry.

 

Take me to another land, take me to your next God’s country

Why have your people been so mistreated? Why have you abandoned them?

Make me understand my Friend.

 

Father, my husband weeps and wails for me.

 

Do not feel guilty.

 

It’s Hurting me, it’s hurting me.

 

Not in my purpose.

 

So you say confusio

It’s not of Me, it’s not of Me

Don’t you see, it’s sight unseen

That made your paranoia turn straight back to Me?

 

That unbroken human being really bridles me

Lord bring me to safety, every day and night

Negro white spirituals

That is something deep.

 

I can see why they’re written

My apology

 

They will reverse it

 

That’s soothing me, that’s soothing me

That mystery

 

That is God’s purpose

That family, that family

 

Defiantly, defining me

Lord I’ve lived an unusual life,

An unusual lifetime lives in me.

That’s all of us, that’s all of us.

Usually, usually

 

Take me to my brothers land

Tell them not to bother me

But only to absolve in me

My family tree, my family tree

I consider that reality, now.

You’re prompting me, you’re prompting me.

 

Why don’t you see, why don’t you see?

?

That passion’s outside you.

 

Lord please thank you

It’s clearing me, it’s clearing me

They’re burning my cradle

Lord now in my own country

So you can see, so You can see

The slow burning flame of independently

Metaphorically, metaphorically

 

Hold onto to your faithful

 

Meta factually, meta factually?

 

Transfigured by Mercy

 

A thousand lights they say exist in the Sun

So much to stay under

Because there’s only One

 

Critical and hurtful

I will burn for Thee

 

What is so perfect?

 

Your plan for me, your plan for me

So it Must Be

From whence did it come from?

Whilst you took your journey back to Tennessee for me

Arrested in Your Mercy

From complacency.

 

Now who is that, now who is that?

My angers cause me this suffering

Inside of me, inside of me

 

I ask that you’re soothing

 

And God is still moving….

 

A tearful thing, a tearful thing

I promise you death comes to all of us

Eventually, eventually

 

Bow down and curtsy.

 

Coming home to me is really My Mercy?

 

Lord, give us a moment.

 

Because I will not hurt you.

 

Lord I saw the Light passing over me

And you’ve passed around, you’ve passed around

Child, Angels say you will not bargain this

Return to me, return to Me

There’s no life better than the exit plea

You’ll live so full, you’ll live so full

Dear Lord, I can even hear you promise me….

 

Child, it’s only a vulnerable sense of emergency

So don’t run from me, don’t run from me

Said beautifully, said beautifully

 

Where does jealousy come from?

Low self esteem, low self esteem

 

Now write that on purpose.

 

What? Jealousy?

What? Jealousy?

 

Because you are Perfect.

 

 

 

 

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Embrace the Beauty of Your Needs with Self-Compassion and Empathic Communication

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Mental Health Counselor and Integrative Health Practitioner

Natalie has a 19-year career as a mental health professional counseling individuals, youth, families, people with disabilities, and the homeless in both inpatient and non-profit settings in Atlanta, Florida, and San Francisco. She holds a Master’s Degree in Professional Counseling and continued with an apprenticeship in healing, her own therapy work, several hours of training in Nonviolent Communication, and 3-year experience in Core Energetics. She currently counsels business professionals, therapists, alternative healers, couples, students, and psychics as an integrative health practitioner. Her previous groups have been in Women’s Intuitive Development and Spirituality.

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