There’s always a limit to what we know, and we can get comfortable with that. So, GROW. Take every opportunity to learn and demand answers.
Anger. It’s the last emotion we allow ourselves to talk about/express because it feels unsafe and has consequences within our relationships. It is seen as the dividing factor between us. Without its expression, our minds become consumed by resentment. Emotional survival and the grapple for safety are hard impulses to overcome when anger has been buried under the rug for so long. All the while, anger has been exploring the opportunity for opening to a hard talk with someone.
If we can sit in our discomfort precariously, balanced uneasily on tinder hooks for the time it lasts, you’ll gain so much stamina to face reality and become a person that others can go to. What is painful is the person who can’t face their reality and must live dissociated from the truth of who they really are and their effect on others. A lot of us who know these persons can be protecting them from facing their pain, thus enabling the illusion to continue. I believe a policy of asking for the truth while learning skilled boundaries about a person is extremely beneficial for the village and tantamount to the character.
How do we reclaim the village?
Our potential for suffering within the family we come from can be minimized by expressing ourselves and being listened to.
We’ll call it being a “skilled-wise” person: To practice opening your emotional perception and emotional literacy, by just letting your thoughts and feelings flow. You’re having tea with your mind and a listen to your heart. Letting creative perceptions, thoughts, words, emotions to release. Trust and live the process out. Sustain it as long as you can. You are putting feelings into words and owning them as an expert. Sovereignty over your inner being, and a coming reverence for your inner self, is key for living a balanced and healthy emotional life.
Empathy is Poetry 