Being a Real Person

Being a Real Person

It takes a village to raise a child. But instead we can only put them in daycare.

If you’ve performed service in the world, and you really think about it, you see why people do what they do to cope with life and suffering. It can form a lens in your view where nothing’s shocking and reactions for you are dispassionate. Let’s hope you will always care at the same time.

Being a Real Person-
It’s just true, that being a mature person is accepting that we have to deal with people, and sometimes difficult people. Sometimes we have to put ourselves aside. The real mature people I have seen know when to say something and when not to say something. They can hold back, and they seem to me like they only want to uphold love more than anything they can do or say.

Popular culture suggests that radical honesty is best, that we have to be in our “power” and must not repress our truth. Being kind and allowing the other person’s expression is truth too. I find it is an enhancement to your own heart and person to practice selflessness. You are still claiming your sovereignty and alleviating tension with kindness as well. Your softness is a place for people to lay their heads, while you enjoy being that balm more than asserting the “I.” It’s the realization that there is some meaninglessness in our humanly pursuits, yet discerning what is truly worthy of our attention.

We can’t ignore that we have negativity before we find a break into “psychological relief of our struggles.” Spirituality awakening within us can come directly from this negativity and hardship. Some of us are enlightened early by great suffering and pain. Yes, it can feel scary to be alive and a human being. Anything can be a trauma to someone. Not just a major tragedy or loss. You’re still a person, nonetheless.

I want get better at looking at my own needs and feelings lovingly, solidly planted, in charge of what I give. Don’t we all wish we could really walk this way? The truth is we are not as in charge anyway. We always get our boundaries crossed without knowing it, we get provoked into frustration, we torture ourselves over interactions, you name it, on a daily basis. What does being spiritual mean?

Life begins as innocent. God’s Universe is a light in the mind. There’s a luminosity to people, animals, happenstances, misunderstandings, how the way things turn out better than expected, at times. A simplicity to it all is possible to see. Yet, like a movie foreseeing some tragedy, we live in a lens of suspicion, from time to time retreating into a darkness and believing it’s true. And then, that’s when something happens.

Don’t be seduced by the familiar ideas. Because you have changed. They have changed. Life has changed.

Empathically embodying what a real sentient person sees and feels moves my soul. A cracked mouth, incredulous eyes…..there is so much to learn in being and becoming a Real person.

thank you,

Natalie